I was 25 yrs old when I met my first abuser....we dated, everything was perfect for 5 yrs, I had his first and only son and he proposed, and I said YES. The minute I said yes I noticed this starting to change slowly. We married on March 21, 1998 and 2 years after we married thinga started going down hill with him being obsessive and wanting to clock and time my every move. The arguing began, the stalking and disrespect and the physical started. One day I just got fed up with no where to go I left and took my chances on survival. He started threatening he was gonna have me killed, but instead he met his untimely death from asthma in May 2003, so he never got a chance make good on his promise.
So after his death I stayed single for 5 yrs and then decided to get back out there and met my second abuser who was much worst, he broke my nose on my birthday one year, choked me, pulled my hair, pulled a gun out on me, also threaten to kill me and sit at home with my body till my son got home from school so he could see the expression on his face when he found my body. At that minute I knew I needed a game plan cause he was truly capable of killing me and not caring. I escaped Baltimore and moved back to New York 4 yrs ago safely with my son, and he stalked me for a year of the 4 yrs being back home. I have never experience such brutal treatment but knew I had to remain strong for my kids. I learned to turn my weakness into my strengths and Love Shouldnt Hurt was born, and helping others in dv situations to know there not alone in this fight.
Someone does care and her name is Melissa Holmes.
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